Matchmaker, Matchmaker

“So Grampi, was it love at first sight when you saw her?”

Daughter’s eyes widen, jaw drops when Maternal Grandpa lets out belly laugh.

Hahahahaha …..

 Her romantic notions of darling-sweep-me-off-my-feet-I’m-yours-forever are shattered.

Sister and I glean bits and pieces over the years.

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Sister and me

Dad’s story –

“I came home from work one evening, and Mother told me I was fixed up.

No further discussion …

(Rumour has it that Paternal Grandma in her heyday was a tough bird.)

Fixed up is a direct translation from the vernacular.  There’s a sense of no-way-out about it. 

Matchmakers are Aunty Ruby’s in-laws.

Dad, up-and-coming young banker, is desperate to see what the girl looks like before formal introduction when he and parents visit her home.   Enlists help of Friend Gunam. Friend and he ride Dad’s scooter up and down Mum’s lane.  Young Lady finally makes an appearance on front porch.

Dad and Friend ride away.  Dad is glum.

Friend Gunam’s version:  “He was speechless.  He fell instantly in love.”

Dad’s version:  “I didn’t know what to say.  She looked like nothing on earth!”

Ouch …

Enormous relief to meet the girl a few days later.  Accomplished.  Demure.  Long dark hair.  Pleasant to behold.

Phew …

Turns out young lady on front porch was Neighbour’s Daughter!

Wrong address!

True story – honest – straight from the horse’s mouth.

Mum’s Story –

Me:  “Mum, so what did you think when you saw him?”

Mum:  “He was so handsome, darling.  My heart skipped a beat!”

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Stars in Mum’s eyes!
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Only after  formal engagement and a ring on her finger
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He’s the man!

                         

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The date is fixed.  Here comes the bride …

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All the world and his wife were invited
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Beatrice.  Blushing bride

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Till death do us part

   

 

 

 

 

Uncle Gunam – comrade, confidante, fellow sleuth – is   Bestman.

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Man and wife.  Confetti, flower garlands and smiles.  Dad and Mum on church steps

Fast forward fifty years.   Golden Wedding Anniversary  celebrations.  

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Diamond ring.  Dad and Mum renewing marriage vows at  altar.  
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Order of Service.  Reception dinner and dancing after.

 

 

They  all said it – grannies and great aunts, aunties and elderly widows:

“Love comes after marriage, that’s how it happens.”

Stable, enduring.

Me to Daughters:  “Safer, more trustworthy than E-Harmony dot com, right?”

Daughters shrug and roll their eyes. 

Whatever …

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Love comes after marriage …

So that’s why Grampi laughed out loud.

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Youthful genes and blue jeans.  Grampi with Granddaughters (too long ago)
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Aging nicely.  Grampi and Peter (Sister’s son)

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Little voice from past echoes in my ear.  “Fall is an untidy season, Mommy …”

Second small voice chimes out in agreement.

Aptly put.

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Amazing how Memory Bank unlocks to release unexpected cameo moments. 

Daughters are all grown up now. 

I remember all over again what a pretty season this is.  

Neighbourhood trees are on fire –

Backyard fence is burning up –

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View from upstairs window
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View from kitchen 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Summer’s done.  Falling  in love with fall – all over again.

 

Blazing autumn promenades –  

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Husband and Puppy
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Puppy sniffs neighbour’s pumpkins on garbage day.  (No Hallowe’en celebrations at our house.)
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Eek!

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Tiny joy-moments to take one’s breath away …

(1) Pause to observe a single coloured leaf –

(2) Apple-strewn sidewalk –

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  • (3) Smudge of rainbow in grey sky –                         

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    Gasp of delight, unexpected sight
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    Hello brave rose!

     

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(4) Last lonely rose clinging to neighbour’s fence.

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Thought of Mum when I took these pictures –

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Living room reflected in old mirror

She used to say, “Eyes are the mirror of the soul.” 

Mum’s heart was reflected in her eyes.  Childlike, guile-less.  She drew people to her like a magnet.

Me: “Mum, has it ever bothered you that Dad is so … er  … striking?  Have you ever wished you were … maybe … prettier?”

Mum (puzzled):  “No. Why? Never!”

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Debonair Dad.  Twenty-something bachelor.
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Play on words.  Dad’s name is  Prins.

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They called him Omar Sharif in his day.    

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People leave footprints on our lives.  Mum left indelible prints on mine.

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That’s Mum
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By the lake last summer

Thankful for those who’ve touched my life, influenced my thinking. Thankful for Mum. 

Miss you, Mum.  Miss your loving letters …

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Saved every letter Mum ever wrote to me (until she discovered email)

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Chilly morning today.  Found bird’s nest under tree –

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Straw and clay – avian masterpiece

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In church last Sunday

 

 

 

 

I’ll continue to  cling to thankful.  If it’s all that remains, it’s enough.  

Until next time,

sincerely

PS: All the pictures in this post are moments captured on my IPad and phone. 

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12 thoughts on “Matchmaker, Matchmaker

  1. Hi, Selina. What a beautiful post and tribute to your parents. Such a handsome couple! You’ve captured the warmth of love throughout the years and shared it so well in your blog. Bye, my friend. Rosalyne

    On Wed, Nov 9, 2016 at 11:19 PM, Never 2 Old 2 Dream wrote:

    > Selina Stambi posted: ““So Grampi, was it love at first sight when you saw > her?” Daughter’s eyes widen, jaw drops when Maternal Grandpa lets out belly > laugh. Hahahahaha ….. Her romantic notions of darling-sweep-me-off-my-feet-I’m-yours-forever are > shattered. Sister and I g” >

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  2. So beautiful…. love is also a commitment that stands the test of time – which is rare these days.
    Pictures of nature nicely done – captures the beauty of God’s creation.

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  3. Such a beautiful post with wonderful pictures from past and present and littlee stories.
    Thank you for visiting my blog. I am glad that we met and hope we meet again!

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  4. I really enjoyed my journey through your life Selina, so many memories captured in Pictures, loved your family pics and the landscape in the Window, I had a furry friend that looked like yours too, I miss him heaps!

    Yes very True People do leave Footprints in our lives, I wrote a few Poems about God and Satan’s Footprints and also the one below which you reminded me of .

    Our Footprints….
    No one comes into our lives without leaving their Footprints good or bad,
    May I accept the Love that is offered and not dwell on the rejection and hurt,
    But forgive or seek forgiveness and move on in Love,
    Than the Footprints I leave will always be ones of Love and encouragement,
    even if not known by those to whom it’s shown.

    Penned by Annie.

    Christian Love and Blessings – Anne.

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  5. I just knew your posts were going to be awesome….and, this one proved me right. How magical and wonderful and touching and fascinating and heart-warming. And, I love the variety and whimsy and playfulness you brought to your offering. You have a wonderful flare…thanks for sharing 🙂 So lovely to meet you.
    Signed,
    Truly

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  6. Your Mum’s departure has left a large empty space in all our hearts……… , her warmth and innate goodness is captured in her smiling face!

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  7. Hello, thank you for the lovely visit you made to my blog today. I had to pay you a visit in return and I so enjoyed this post! I have such a passion for the past, and family history and genealogy. I could look at old photos – of anybody’s family – all day. What a beautiful couple and what a beautiful story you wrote – and what a beautiful story they created.

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