Shadow Woman

 She wore a

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 and

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outfit, loads of

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jewellery and

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 , her

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teased and sprayed. 

She has

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.  She is

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  …  “

IMG_20151008_175447 lady,” I chirped.  “You look

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.  Just

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.”

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,” she cooed.  “

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for keeping

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Have you

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?”   I gave her a hug. “

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, Cherie.”

 She has

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of

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. The  pouty

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-type

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of

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.  It’s

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on a

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evening in the summer. This is my friend Cherie. She turns eighty next year.

Eighty!

 “You have to be friendly with your mirror,”

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, tapping on the restaurant table with pearl-tipped fingers.

 Her voice was silver-screen husky.

 

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to say,

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 is full of

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,” he snorted. “ It’s a

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.  Before you

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 it’s

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, and taken

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.  And

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?

_20150619_112752.  Do you like what you see?  You stare and say, ‘What have you done to me?’”

Her

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 , resumed his perusal of the menu.  Not in a

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today!  He’s a

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sometimes.

She was more than

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He couldn’t

_20150701_144738her

_20150630_173341.  “

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. That is why you have to be friendly, so you are comfortable with what you see.  See?”

He rolled his eyes and began, in

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French, to discuss

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I remembered my find that morning.  The blue card tucked into the door of the  ladies’ room in a Montreal public building.  Here it is –

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, it declared.  You are magnificent…

An advertising gimmick, with the name and address of a professional photographer on the reverse.

My initial reaction: I am?

I looked at Cherie.

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.  She lives it.  This is exactly how she feels  inside –

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. (

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“Cherie,

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,” I gushed.  “Just look at

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like this!  I

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You have a

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presence.

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, you know. It makes you

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younger than you are.”

 She grew

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. “

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.   You can’t

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.  That’s exactly what life is.

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, I thought I would be young

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Didn’t we all?


_20150708_014011we were young and in love?”  She smiled at Daniel.  He grunted. 

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 It’s

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, and you’re living with

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, you know, by the map of time on my person.”  She touched her cheek. You can’t

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the lines away  like

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with a

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. When age hits,

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.  There’s no annual

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or

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to protect you from the inevitable. ” 

 “So

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 the secret  to staying

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 and beautiful, Cherie?”

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.  So does youth.  There are

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 …”

 “Tell me.” 

She took

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out of her

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(My friend  has an incurable

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.)

“The

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never lasts long and

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 don’t work,

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this is what 

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You’ve

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 aware.  Learn  

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 .”

Smoke signals and drowning –  what a

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way  of putting it …

 She reached for a

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 of

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. “We can all feel like

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,” she said.

 “We can?”

“Yes!

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 with the passage of time, my dear.”   She looked down at the

IMG_20150829_095926 on her dessert plate and grinned.  “It can be delicious!

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.  Find

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reality.

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 dry up and shrivel away,

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have to. I refuse to turn into a

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.  I will not fade away into a

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.  That would be a

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, I think!

Yes, Cherie, it would …

It’s

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IMG_20150921_181458,” she cooed.  “You can do it.”

“Come on Cherie, it’s 

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.” 

IMG_20151008_174614dear, you can

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!”

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.   Tell me how.  I

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a

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 journey into time.” 

She took a sip of water.  “

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approach it.  

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.  If you are

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, tell yourself, ‘

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, but if you

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 .  Remember,

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on the stage of your life. It’s up to me to make

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years the best

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You have to experience the

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of living in

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and

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, do your best to

IMG_20151008_165543the rickety mindset.  Make it

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 to waste on such things. You have to discipline your mind.  It’s like

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Savour them all. 

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.  There’s a right way and a

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to approach life. 

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You make the 

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.”

“Really?”

She was emphatic. “Really! 

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 , but certainly better. 

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 are the full-blown ones, darling.”

 I have

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I

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of her

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optimism.  This woman is a

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.  My

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.  I’m

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Cherie resumed her monologue. “

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,

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Don’t dwell on the

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Make an effort to

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 if you have to!”

 Dance? Yes! Maybe not on the table, though …

” Oh, and

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 ?” I quipped.

 She laughed.  

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faith. 

 

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 I

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.  I

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_20150628_234055.” Her hand went to her heart.  “

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, you know. Right here.”

 This is

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 There’s

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in her words … 

IMG_20151006_223839, Cherie!” I applauded.  ” It’s simply

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 , you know. You

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!”

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She purred.  ” 

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!”  (IMG_20150801_200453

 – honest!)

“My goodness, Cherie, you’ve

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,” I protested.

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for saying that! 

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the numbers. You make

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to

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your body’s age.

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and live there!

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in advance for

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 the way you hope.   Life

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 …”

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, can it ever?

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 the half of it, Cherie …

“ No matter what, choose to believe that

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.  Choose to

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 comes at the 

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 that your body may be going  

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, but never let it

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or

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, but 

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, okay darling?”

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             …

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 ,” she went on. “ I

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Actually,

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       IMG_20150921_182824 . Suddenly I want to pick up my feet and

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. I feel like

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a

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 down the aisles.

  “You can’t

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 like you, Cherie,” I said. “And

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 – every single one.” 

“Oh,

_20150614_121512, I’m not

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,” she replied. “I have my

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moments.

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 might fluctuate.”

 “Cherie, no one is perfect …”

” 

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,” she beamed.  “Once you alter your way of thinking, you find you’re

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 can be wonderful.  I aim to

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 who never grew old!” 

This

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 . The power of positive aging.  Could this be

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 The

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of

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 . This is

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to combat the effects of the saggy

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and  the

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Flaunt the smile, wear the

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with grace!

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, so  when the time comes,

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)


 

  I looked at my list of

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(1) IMG_20150926_091454

 (2) IMG_20150926_091524

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 I grabbed a pen and wrote another list –

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_20150701_134804 Keep IMG_20150920_105310

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IMG_20150925_210404from within.

Write more

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Hang on to the

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.  Have

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.  This is where you begin _20150701_155304

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 And

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_20150530_102512–  a

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 May

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I’m

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sincerely


 

 

 

 

All the pictures in this post are digital moments captured on the author’s smartphone.

 

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4 thoughts on “Shadow Woman

  1. Selina,This is fabulous!! Such an inspiring writing and use of pictures. You’ve described the most beautiful elegant woman, one who lives life to the fullest.  ByeRosalyne 

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  2. This post really resonated with me. I remember so very clearly at the ripe old age of 8, telling my Aunt I would NEVER get old. And I really believed it. Talk about living in the moment. LOL Your post is a huge visual presentation of staving off age and antiquated thought. I’m going to run out and buy a mini skirt! Thanks for the uplifting thoughts!

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  3. Ienjoyed your new blog Selina Stambi. You are indeed very innovative! How is Romesh and how are the girls? Hope all is well with you. Love, Aunty Joyce

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